Domestic Violence Story Chapter One
Domestic Violence Story - Chapter One
To show or not to show? To share or not to share? After deliberating, it was a no brainer for me to show other women (and men), just SOME of what I have been through. Yes, a picture tells a thousand words. But why did it happen? What did "I" do to cause it? Was there any domestic violence prevention that could have been done? Why did he do this? Many women ask these same questions.
Sometimes there are absolutely NO "logical" reasons why things happen. Sometimes there are logical reasons. But none of them make us physically, emotionally, or mentally feel any better after they happen.
Was this the only time? Well, I would love to tell you it was. But that wouldn't be the truth. And the truth is why we are all here, right? To find the truth and seek our own solutions to get out.
Were there red flags? In reflection, "Heck, yes!"
He was so nice at first. A gentleman, seriously. Then we moved in together. BIG mistake. By then, financially, times were difficult. A few months after we moved in, I was laid off from my job. The man who hired me kept me employed until his wife came back from pregnancy leave, then he let me go and she took over my position. He never mentioned his plan to only keep me until she returned.
The strain financially did not make my boyfriend happy. We started getting into disagreements. Then one night the yelling started. So I went into the bathroom and packed a bag to go and stay at my girlfriend's house. Ahhh, THAT is when it started. He threw me across the bathroom and I hit my head on the sink and fell between the toilet and the sink to the floor. I remember staring at my legs and arms. They were not comfortable in the contorted position in which they landed. But I was in shock mostly that he so effortlessly pushed my chest and I literally flew across the bathroom.
Instead of hearing "I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to do that!", I heard, "You're not f@#$ing going anywhere!" Obviously, I stayed home.
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Thank god you got out of that alive! I wish you well and hope you get over the emotional injuries. I see from your dieting intentions that you are beating yourself up now. You are a strong and beautiful woman (yup, even with the extra weight). Learn to love yourself Adrienne! Clearly from the computer and electronics work you do, you are highly intelligent. Setting up your own business shows your incredible work ethic. You have a lot to be proud of in yourself. Love your self image as it is now.
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I just went through my first expeirece with a man hitting me choking me and grabbing me by the hair of the head to drag me out the door! this is my first time and i hope it will be the last time because i will never go back to him! It shocked me because i never would have thought in my wildest dreams he would have ever had even raised his voice to me we had been together for a year and never had even the first dissagreement. As far as wondering what i did i know damn well i didnt do ne thing to disserve that but he thought different and that was all that mattered, what he thought! It doesnt make it hurt ne less emotionally though i think i'm still in shock. I never thought that would happen to me and exspecially with this guy. Boy was i wrong. I'v learned an important lesson and no matter how much i still love him he's history because if he could hit me that first time i know damn well he would do it again!
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I am 13 years old and my mom was in that kind of relationship for 5 YEARS!!! We were always scared and tried not to make him upset. We put him in jail twice but she kept going back. The last time that she went back he almost killed her in front of my 3 year old sister who was watching him hit her. I called the cops and when they showed he begged us to tell them that he didn't do anything. Of COURSE WE TOLD THEM THAT HE HIT HER . we have been away form him for 2 years now and my mom is in a different relationship with someone that I trust. Let's see how this turns out. I HAVE A HUNCH THAT IT WILL END A LOT BETTER
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You are a very brave young lady! Your mother is safe because of your being so courageous and intelligent. It is not something I would want for any child to have to go through, but I am honored you wrote on my site to let us know what you and your mother have gone through, and please know that I am praying for you to have a very happy childhood. You deserve all the wonderful things in life. Please do not ever hesitate to contact me if I can be of assistance. God Bless You, Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
I wanted to tell you that you are an amazing woman for posting this. I am now 24 years old, and for all of my first 18 I was a victim to my father's hand. I watched him beat my mother unconscious, break bones, bloody her up far worse than your poor photo you posted here. She suffered through that sort of torture, and stayed because of very real death threats not only to her, but to myself and to my brother, as well as all of her family. We were SCARED for our lives. I still have nightmares of him walking up and down the hall, scraping a hunting knife up and down our closed bedroom doors, saying that he was going to stab us to death once we fell asleep. I couldn't sleep. He always told us that we didn't deserve him. No, he didn't deserve US. One day, because of unavoidable circumstances, he was arrested. I made the call, some 30 miles away out of sheer terror of the beating that I knew I'd suffer when I got home. He fractured my Mom's jaw - in 3 blows while she was pinned on the bed. He served 9 months, that's it. He's even off probation now. I've been free for 6 years now. It still plagues my existence to this day and I'm always finding myself scared when I'm alone. I'm a happy person...you'd never guess my past sometimes, but other times it comes leaking to the surface.
I hope with all of my heart that this is the last time you, as well as my family and every other victim, ever have to deal with monsters that exist like this in our world. Stay strong. Continue living your life to its fullest.
From the bottom of my heart,
Linaia
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This has happened (and is still happening) to my best friend. It fills me with rage and breaks my heart when I see what she's going through, but she doesn't believe she can leave him.
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A couple years ago I was stabbed in front of my children by my boyfriend. He never put his hands on me until the day I caught him cheating and I told him to leave my house. He climbed in the window came into the bathroom and got to stabbing me with a dirty screw driver. They beating continued into my living room where my children were, everyone in the building that heard my screams came to my rescue. He ran down the hall to his female friends house and she let him hide out that was until the police told her to open up,she refused and her locks were shot off. I went to the hospital and never returned to the building or the realtionship; one time was enough for me no matter how much he love me .
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Linaia,
I am so very sorry to hear about your and your mother's torture at the hands of an extremely sick man. I understand your pain and fear, that at times you are scared. After nearly being strangled to death numerous times and my neck snapped over and over, I have nightmares and recurring dreams that I am running to get away from a man with a very dark face (not even the man who did this to me, some unknown man).
I have added security to my home, and carry a taser and pepper spray. What a horrible way to live, I know. But it makes me feel safer and I ALWAYS watch my surroundings when going in and out of a store in the parking lots, even in broad daylight.
It is sad and heartbreaking to hear your and other women's stories. I wonder what went so terribly wrong in the minds of these men that they think it is all right to prey on physically weaker people than themselves. They are truly cowards.
You can be cautious and happy at the same time, it's just finding the right balance. My prayers are with you and your family always.
God Bless,
Adrienne
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I know how she feels, she is afraid. She must start her life over somewhere else, and that is difficult, especially when children are involved and you have bills in the same name. Please tell her to review this page on my site, perhaps she might find some numbers to call and see if they have help in her area.
http://domesticviolencenomore.com/2007/07/30/national-coalition-against-domestic-violence.aspx
God Bless,
Adrienne
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Yvette,
Unfortunately, when an emotionally unstable man is caught cheating and you tell him to leave, he feels like a caged rat with nowhere to go. He reacts with violence and anger at the innocent woman who did nothing wrong.
Everytime my ex cheated on me and I caught him and told him to leave, my head was smashed into the walls and floors and a blanket was stuffed into my mouth when I barely had enough oxygen left to defend myself. It was always by the Grace of God that he would stop in the nick of time. Or, he was thinking as he always did (selfishly) that if he actually killed me he would spend life in prison.
I feel so, so badly for you, and I am relieved to hear from you today and know you made it out alive and NEVER WENT BACK! All I can say is, "YOU GO GIRL!!! I AM SO DOGGONE PROUD OF YOU!!!"
God Bless You and Your Children...Please Lead a Happy Life...You Deserve It :o)
Adrienne
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I know exactly what you're going through! My recently ex began getting violent with me a few months ago. He pushed me into walls, slammed my head off the floor, tried to drag me outside in the winter wearing only underwear,threw me into the coffee table, chocked me until I almost passed out, and he attempted to drown me in the bathtub. He would also spit in my face and one time took a whole bottle of Advil and when I told him to spit it out, he spit them all over me. I can still remember the stickyness of the pills on my face and in my hair.
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When I saw this photo, my first thought was ouch. BUt my second thought was I wonder what SHE did to upset her man.
Men only act this way when they feel their children are threatened. You behavior somehow made him think you were detrimental to the family.
A shame. I would like to know more. BUt one thing that I was certain of upon seeing this photo is that children were involved. Otherwise the man CAN just walk away, when he loves children walking away is NOT an option.
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I am so sorry for what has happen to you. I just recently met a man, he was kind and gentle and had the most beautiful smile and warmest eyes. This man is a marine, I was really touched by this fact to. Well kind and gentle turned into him telling me to do something in such away almost like a Sargent in the marine corp, that I feared not to do what he said. He always was telling me how he did not like to holler, did not beat women, would not hurt a child, but he threaten my grandchildren, threaten me , and now the voice mails, are out of control and last night I relieved a text the first was HI bear, the last was Murder, this morning Good morning Bear, This scares me for my life, He is a very bad drinker, and I think he might suffer from PTSD and sometimes I think he thinks he is still in the war. Never the less I have been trying to stay out of site, he has threaten to come to my job, but has not. He has told me I cannot hide forever, and he just seems to go on and on.This man wanted to marry me, but I believe this man would kill me.
Thank you for letting me share.
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I dated a Marine years ago who was in the barracks when it blew up overseas, and most of his comrades were killed. He seemed "normal" at first, and then the anger and name calling slowly started. I became frightened, but he lived in my complex, so I was not sure how to break up with him. One night, when I finally had the nerve to confront him about his temper and the fact that I did not want to be with him anymore, I thought he was going to kill me. He had me on the floor and was spitting in my face, calling me horrible names. I laid there with my eyes closed, praying he would just go away. Because I just let him take out his anger without fighting back or responding, it probably saved me from injury.
Previously, he told me he had horrific nightmares, and he shared with me that he had to kill children during the war and could not forget (and I am guessing forgive himself). PST is very, very real. And your Marine "friend" is showing you this, so you must get away now, because there are way too many tragic cases of men coming home from the Iraqi war now and killing their wives and girlfriends.
You can contact his base and let them know immediately what is going on. But you should plan to be unreachable for a week or two afterward. Contact his highest commander, an officer, and they will discipline him and prohibit he contact you anymore. I was in the Navy, so they must respond to these types of things and protect the civilians. Please be careful, because it sounds like his threats are very real. God Bless and Be Safe!!! Adrienne
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I was in the same situation for my entire 27 years married.Know i am moved out from my house.im free to live as a normal and honest person.My strange husband still living on ours house in FL Pompano Beach.he has a normal life .nice job,and a other person to abuse again..I am very proud of myself i was able to move before he kill me..In the end,he was trying to convence the others that i am a BIPOLAR..Thanks God i don't need to be abused no more..He was the one who hurt me and ours kids,,we don't want see him again..Thanks God i am alive today...
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Last night i left my husband.He has been abusive emotionally for about 3 years now. and phisically abusive for 2 years.Last night he threw my across the room in front of our children and then grabbed my arm as if to hurt me. His father had to drag him off me. I was so scared i just took my kids and some clothes and ran. Reading this is a great support for me. Thank you
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Hi, Celia.
It appears you are in California, so you can go to this website, which offers Legal Self Help.
http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/
Each state should have a self help legal section to help victims. Call the courts, too, and see if they offer women of domestic violence free divorces, or if they can refer you to someone in your area who can do it for a minimal fee, such as a paralegal.
I am praying for you that you do not go back, and wish you happiness and safety for many, many years to come!
You Deserve BETTER!
God Bless,
Adrienne
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Amy,
I feel for you, especially since you have children! The emotional abuse leads to verbal abuse, and when we put up with it for so long, it's only a matter of time before they think in the back of their heads that we will put up with the physical abuse (because we allowed ourselves to be verbally and emotionally abused already).
I am so glad his father was there to help you! I pray you get help for YOU and your children now, because it is up to him to get help for himself. If he chooses not to, it will never change, and unfortunately, only get worse.
Best Always and Please Stay Safe!
Adrienne
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To "Anonymous"
I decided to approve this comment after some deliberation, to show how some people view domestic violence, and they "assume" a lot when reading a story.
No, in fact, we did not have children together, which was a blessing. He was an alcoholic who drank that night, and that released his rage on my face and body. It's hindsight now, but something I will never forget.
He was controlling and jealous, which I mistook for "love," which was a mistake. I now know the signs, that when anyone is jealous to a controlling degree, you must get out of that relationship IMMEDIATELY. It will not get better, because your partner will ensure they alienate you from your friends, family, co-workers, and even forbid you to look at or say hello to that cashier at your friendly convenience store.
So this man was not threatened, he was drunk, and had emotional problems from his childhood, which was taken out on me over a period of time (because I allowed it and 'thought' he would become nicer as we went on).
Women stay for a number of reasons...those not in the situation can either judge, or choose to try and understand that many of us have had unhealthy upbringings, and look for love in all the wrong types of people. It's a lesson we must learn, and for me, (stupidity?), it was not the only time I let myself be treated so horribly.
This BLOG is here to help women (and some men do get abused and should not allow it as well) learn that no matter what, you must get healthy and put a value of GREAT WEALTH on your head and move on.
I learned something a long time ago that has always stayed with me...
When you look at your partner, assign a number to them from 0 - 10. When you look at their forehead, put that imaginary number on their head of what their value/worth is to you.
Most people who are in love and want to work out an unhealthy relationship usually give their partner a higher number, perhaps a 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, or even a 10.
BUT....your abuser looks at you, and when he sees your forehead, he assigns a number of your worth to him or her....and all he sees is a ZERO!
So what are YOU worth?
Do me this favor, start looking at yourself in the mirror and assign yourself a TEN! That's a 10!!!
Look at your abusive partner and give him or her the number that they TRULY earned....which you know is really a ZERO!
You are Worth More...Treat Yourself to a Great Life!
We Only Get One...
God Bless,
Adrienne
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I'm so glad that you got out of the situation before it really got out of hand. You have too stay strong and keep your head high and remember his words will come and sound so good;but don't believe those words. Keep your head up and keep those babies safe. Love don't hurt.
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It'sChristmas Eve morning of 2008. I wake up witha slap across my face. Standing accusedof cheating, I was lying in bed with pneumonia-thank God the boys were sleeping (for a change). I finally decided to face my own GIANTs and appear in court. I wanted him to gey help because I love him still. But obviously the feelings not mutual right? Or else, it would hurt so bad. Since April of 2005 I've been faced with physical, verbal, and emotional abuse. I'm SO Tired of the scars...
I have to keep reminding my self that "I'm BEAUTIFUL".
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I love hearing success stories. I too am a survivor. My abuse started when I was 6 being sexually molested til age 11. I soon moved right into sex, drugs, pregnancy, violence, violation, and everything else. I am 41 years old now I have been abuse free for 4 years in May. I am still scared to death...of everything. I am starting to put my story out there. I give speeches, volunteer at a domestic violence shelter, and am now going to school to be social worker. A lot of people loved me when I could not love myself. I still have esteem issues, and my social functioning isnt the greatest but I have a choice today to get out there and experience life. My dream is to someday open up transitional housing for women who break bondage and need moderate to long term housing to get an education and find a job so they can be self supporting. So many times when it was time to leave the shelter it was just easier to go back. I did not know what else to do. I want to make a difference in someone's life like someone did mine. I want to get my story out there. Women are powerful people. I felt so good the day that I said out loud I have a choice today I am not a victim but I am a survivor. Now that is powerful...thanks for listening to me
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I guess i the other side most are to ashamed to speak out. I am in a relationship with a wonderful women and we live together. we have a child form our other marrige. i have a son (13) and she has a daughter (17). Her daughter was wonderful and caringthen, BANG! She don't get her way i get the flash anger. when i feel the tention coming on i first put my hands in my pockets and never remove them until the incendent is over. the latest was when most were buying flowers and candy and planning a night with that special someone.I spent the evening holding my head from multible blows to my head while i was driving her and her friend home from the mall. She got angry with me because i caught her with a guy she was not to be around. SHE GOT BUSTED! So on the way home she cursed me and her anger increesed. she even tried to jump out of the car. i held on to her wrist for her life. That is when she beat me in the head. i'm shaking while i recall this. today is the 16th and i still have a severe headache. I have done the very best for her and i just don't understand. I have been called Daddy by this young lady even before her mother left an abusive husband. I have been called the rescurer of them because i gave them a place to run. My girlfriends mother thinks the world of me because i keep EVERY PROMISE i make.I promised her no harm would come to her Daughter and grandaughter.
Well i'm at my wits end on what to do.
I truely Love my girlfriend.
Is there any other guy like me or anyone who can help?
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Anyone,how do i add a picture of the abuse
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Dear wayne,
I love my son's father, too, nbut for years I've put up with the abuse. I've finally opened my eyes to see that he's not going to change. I have let him go. My theory: If he loves me enough, he'll accept responsibility that he's hurting us and HE will get the help he needs on his own. The same for you. No one's a hero by staying in an abusive relationship.
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I want to help those who are hurting. Please visit my site!
www.the-helping-hand-co.com
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Enjoyed your article.. so glad to see you share something so tragic. I too, work my efforts to advocate for DV awareness. I was once a victim, but now I am a SURVIVOR. I can relate to your story. For two years, I was pity-case, frowned upon, and at an all time low in my life, and in society as well. Now, I am admired, and respected. I am Miss New Bedford and my year is dedicated to advocating for this cause. I share my story, educate, and inspire people. I am on my way up the ladder in hopes of becoming Miss America, to make my voice even louder for my cause! WE ARE STRONG! We as survivors have the power that others don't!! Live your life.. stay strong.. I'm with you. =)
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Post an "after" picture.. Be proud of who you are now.. the comparisons are amazing.. I know mine are.
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That sounds great. I love the power I feel when I say I am a survivor not a victim. I want to inspire and help people too if you have any tips for me please let me know. Debra
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hi Adrienne
i'd like your permission to republish your article called "Domestic Violence in Gay Relationships" on my website www.mambagirl.com. the site caters to women and i think this article could add value. i will credit you and your website in the article.
i hope to hear from you soon.
Tracy
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OMG............. i am sooooo sorry about what happened to your eyes... that really hurts..... whoa!!!! how dare he do that to you??? mannnn i hope you feel better and i hope your injury will heal as soon as possible.... May God Bless You So Much!!! Please Take Care.
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OMG!!!!!!!!!!!... SORRY ABOUT THAT PAINFULL STORY..PLEASE TAKE CARE... MAN I AM SO SORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPEND TO YOUR FACE... THAT REALLY GATTA HURT, AND I CAN SAY THAT YOU DEALT WITH A LOT OF PAIN.. PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF SO MUCH... MAY GOD BLESS YOU SO MUCH... PLEASE TAKE CARE.... IM SO SORRY.....
AND THAT I WILL APPROVE.... THAT SURE REALLY COMES WITH A LOT OF PAIN RUNNING THROUGH YOUR BODY, AND RUNNING THROUGH YOUR FACE.... WHOA!!!!
BY: "ELAINE DEMEI" -SAIPAN 670-
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I'm a 12 year old girl and in reading this I am getting a lot of good things for my research report and i know to look for those "red flags" and not ignore them.
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Celia,
Do you still live in Pompano Beach in Florida? I just moved here from Utah, I was in a victim for 13 years. Can I ask you if you are Brazilian? I am from Sao Paulo, just wanted to talk. write me if want at aplace4me2bme@yahoo.com.
Simone
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Hi. I really don't know where to start. I am in an abusive situation right now. I am 8 months pregnant, and want to leave so bad. I just don't know how. He has a real strong hold on my heart right now especially now that i m pregnant. I have no one to talk to about this, because everybody always say "just leave". He has broken my nose, choked me, verbally abuses me, controlls me, etc. I don't knopw what to do anymore. He tells me if I ever cheated on him or left him, he would "get rid of me". Any Advice?
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Sister, Everyone can tell you to "just leave" and if it were that simple "poof" it would done but it is not that simple. For me the control was not really on my heart but on my mind. Once I broke through the fear and decided that I was not going to be a part of this anymore, I made my move. There are not easy answers but you have to think about this do you want your child to grow up like this? That may be enough motivator. Sometimes it was easier for me to sometime for someone else before myself. I wish you the best of luck. You are reaching out that is the first step. Oh one more thing...come up with a plan of action....for instance; clothes is good but try to hoard some money away (even a little at a time), get any important papers and put them up for easy access to a quick getaway, some clothes and whatever else you may need. One time I started hiding my stuff in a huge honeysuckle bush for a week cause I knew the first chance I got I was out of there. One day he went to the store and I was ready, I called someone and all my stuff was outside, I just loaded up and went a nearby shelter. I can tell you this..I know from experience...that once you claim your life back it is so powerful. It is the best feeling in the whole world....VICTIM NO MORE....
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I know how you feel. I recently left my 3yo father because of DV-all the physical,verbal, and emotional abuse I endured over the last four years isn't all behind me, yet. Once you make up your mind to leave, you have to follow through with it all the way. Never go back..Never use your unborn child or children as excuse. They'll will survive. And so will you. Give them a chance to grow up in a healthy, stable, and loving environment....Something I have flashbacks and my eight yo will startle me in the morning while I/m sleeping. I take a swing and miss-I never wish to hurt my children but when he does this -in my mind I'm thinking it's his father coming to hurt me...My child cries out-Mommy it's me!!!. Oh God-if only you knew how that felt inside..It's not about you any more-It's about the safety of the child/ren. Be mindful of that. No one can pull you out of this-you're going to have to do it on your own. It' will make you stronger and give you some of that power that you lost, back. Much love.
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This message is for Michelle the young woman that is eight months pregnant and staying with an abusive man. My advice is that you need to think about hte safety of yourself and your unborn child. When you do go to the hospital to have your baby inform the social worker on what is going on and that you need help because you can lose your baby by providing an unsafe enivorment for that child.And no man is worth the long hours of labor and 9months of me carrying it for me to lose my child to a no good dog. Your heart will heal within time but staying with him will not allow your heart to heal and you too focus on your future with someone that is good and will love you and your baby and who will treat you like a queen that you are. So take my advice let the social worker at the hospital know whats going on please. If you need to talk to someone leave me a number and I will gladly call you and we can talk .
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Michelle,
It has been less than a year since my friend was killed by her boyfriend. She had such a big heart for helping people, so she probably felt like she could fix him. She was also pregnant with his child when she died...and not only that, but he had a couple other kids from a previous relationship and because he was to lazy to work...she was paying the child support. She LOVED kids and adored his kids, so she was happy to do it.
I had gone off to college and lost touch with her, but as I read your post, I just wish she had commented also...and that I or somebody else had written back to helped her through the situation. I have never been through what you are dealing with, but I really would like to help you. After my friend was killed I decided that I want to help people like her with whatever they need, so please...email me. Even other people who might be reading this who are dealing with abuse also... Tell me more about your situation. What can I do to help you most?
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Sim voce e e uma brava mulher.Eu tambem fui abusada desde meus primeiros dias de casada,mas fui dando chances a ELE de mudar de carater,e nunca aconteceu isto..Portanto criei dois filhos junto a um PAI que nao merece os filhos que tem e nunca me mereceu.Sai de minha casa com dez dolares, passei apertos,mas venci.Hoje um ano estou longe dele e pretendo nunca mais o ver..Im from Brasil i live in CA.,he was my only one all my entire life.Eu fiz junto a uma Instituicao contra Abusos do lar,fiz um plano de fuga..Hoje sou feliz e pela primeira vez em 27 anos me sinto livre e sem medo.Ele vive na Fl com outra o qual os dois me roubaram tudo..mas nao me roubam a minha felicidade,alegria ,moral,honestidade e coragem de ser gente.Sou feliz junto a meus filhos ja adultos e educados um Prof e uma Sociologa .E peco a todas que sao abusadas que nao esperem tantos anos como fiz..sejam fortes o mundo e grande e temos direitos de sermos amadas e respeitadas..Um homem como o meu ex marido (Ainda somos casados)e um manipulador,malcriado,imoral.Tem todas a s qualidades de um SOCIOPATA NATO.A Violencia domestica comecas em um simples puxao,grito e dai segue anos e anos,a mulher abusada coitada,sofri muitas vezes caladas teem vergonha,mas digo algo :nao tenhas vergonhas,vc sendo vitima nao merece calar-se.Abras a boca,grites pela sua liberdade,nao tenhas pena deste homem que deverias te amar e respeita seus filhos ea ele mesmo.A violencia e um corrente que nao tem limites.So teras fin se a vitima der um ponto final..Isto eu fiz e nao me arrependo nunca de ter virado as costas uma casa ,e um homem o qual me fez so maldades em toda vida..Se quiserem podem me mandar e mail..contarei tudoe vc e a ajuderei a ter coragem apra ser feliz.Hoje tenho contra ele uma ordem de protecao legal contra ele valida em todo USA,ele nao tem direito de se aprochimar de mim e de nossos filhos por toda vida..Sejam fortes digam nao ao homem que te abusar..
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Hi Adrianne..I still here in CA ,,i will never go back to him never!I also have a Stranger order against him for 5 years plus.My divorce still opened but i need 5.000 to do so.I dent have a any ,i been work hard to pay my rent and help my daughter finish college. He sold ours home in Ca and moved to Fl processing me to be a nice husband and he never changed,well thanks for let me e mail my comments..I will be oak...My two kids still my reason to be alive and the ya re my best friends.thanks..again.
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It took great courage to write your story. Thank you for sharing it.
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WOW
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he truth is that it is more common than believed. When 400 randomly sampled men were interviewed by phone, lead researcher Dr. Robert J. Reid and his colleagues found that 5% had experienced domestic violence in the previous year, 10% in the past five years and 29% at some time during their lifetime. Domestic violence was defined as both physical abuse (slapping, hitting, kicking or forced sex) and non-physical abuse (threats, constant disparaging remarks or controlling behavior).
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