Domestic Violence Story Chapter Three
Domestic Violence Story - Chapter 3
5 police cars, 10 policemen. Searched the vicinity, never found him. When they left, he showed up. He looked at me and started screaming, "Who the hell did this to you!?" I only had one eye to look at him with and disgustingly looked at him while all my friends were there and said, "You did."
He didn't believe it. He said he went into a "blackout." Well, my opinion of whether or not alcoholics actually do go into "blackouts" is neither here nor there. But something happened that was never fully understandable, that's for certain.
What happened to him? Well, this was a while ago, and California didn't impose strict standards on domestic violence abuse the way they do today. That's too bad, isn't it?
He got 30 days of picking up garbage on the side of the road. BUT, since he had a doctor's note saying he had a bad back from a car accident, he actually only wound up doing 15 days doing desk duty. He would leave early because the woman running the program said he was a hard worker.
Trying to get a job (remember, I had been laid off) looking beat up was impossible. I didn't even leave the house for two weeks, and he shut off the phone so I didn't have anyway to even make phone calls to get a job.
There's more to the story, but this gives you an idea as to how quickly domestic violence can happen. Or was it quickly?
If you see red flags, get out now while you can. My story doesn't get happy, and things didn't get much better, not for quite a while.
I'll tell you more about my life again soon, but please don't repeat my mistakes. Because you will end up with a very difficult, unhappy, low self esteem, codependent life like I have lived for far too long.
Trust me, You DO Deserve Better!
God Bless,
Adrienne
P.S. - These pictures were taken 2 weeks after the initial incident. I can tell you this, makeup doesn't hide these injuries. I went to the supermarket because I had no food, so I tried to look decent. I had two people come up to me and ask to take me to the emergency room and wanted to know who just did this to me. When I told them it happened two weeks ago, they didn't believe me.
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5 police cars, 10 policemen. Searched the vicinity, never found him. When they left, he showed up. He looked at me and started screaming, "Who the hell did this to you!?" I only had one eye to look at him with and disgustingly looked at him while all my friends were there and said, "You did."
He didn't believe it. He said he went into a "blackout." Well, my opinion of whether or not alcoholics actually do go into "blackouts" is neither here nor there. But something happened that was never fully understandable, that's for certain.
What happened to him? Well, this was a while ago, and California didn't impose strict standards on domestic violence abuse the way they do today. That's too bad, isn't it?
He got 30 days of picking up garbage on the side of the road. BUT, since he had a doctor's note saying he had a bad back from a car accident, he actually only wound up doing 15 days doing desk duty. He would leave early because the woman running the program said he was a hard worker.
Trying to get a job (remember, I had been laid off) looking beat up was impossible. I didn't even leave the house for two weeks, and he shut off the phone so I didn't have anyway to even make phone calls to get a job.
There's more to the story, but this gives you an idea as to how quickly domestic violence can happen. Or was it quickly?
If you see red flags, get out now while you can. My story doesn't get happy, and things didn't get much better, not for quite a while.
I'll tell you more about my life again soon, but please don't repeat my mistakes. Because you will end up with a very difficult, unhappy, low self esteem, codependent life like I have lived for far too long.
Trust me, You DO Deserve Better!
God Bless,
Adrienne
P.S. - These pictures were taken 2 weeks after the initial incident. I can tell you this, makeup doesn't hide these injuries. I went to the supermarket because I had no food, so I tried to look decent. I had two people come up to me and ask to take me to the emergency room and wanted to know who just did this to me. When I told them it happened two weeks ago, they didn't believe me.
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Adrienne you have beautiful eyes. you must not let what happened to you get yourself down. you also deserve much better than you received. you are young and gorgeous, this will only help you become stronger, smarter and more beautiful. think of only that when a wound heals, the bone becomes stronger than it used to be. discard this incident from your memory or become stronger overcoming it.
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i think your very pretty lady indeed,and thankyou for posting your story xx
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STILL A ROSE...
I HOPE U R WRITING THIS AS A SURVIVOR. I DIVORCED MY ABUSER AFTER 7 YEARS AND 364 DAYS OF MARRIAGE (14 YEARS TOTAL). HE WAS MY HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEART. WE HAVE 3 KIDS TOGETHER. I'VE BEEN FREE FOR 4 YEARS NOW, AND I'M IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN THAT TRULY LOVES ME AND MY KIDS.
I PRESSED CHARGES AND HE DID 3 YEARS AFTER PULLING A GUN ON ME WHILE PREGNANT WITH OUR LAST CHILD. HE'S OUT NOW, BUT I'M STRONGER AND NO LONGER SCARED OR INTIMIDATED BY HIM.
IF U NEED HELP TO GET OUT... EMAIL ME AT STILLAROSE@AOL.COM OR YAHOO.COM
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Adrienne,
You are brave to tell and show the truth of the violence. I will be teaching about our City's Policy- to offer assistance to employees who may be DV victims themselves. In preparation, I was searching for personal stories to use in the sessions so that I can address and present the City's policy with understanding, empathy, and conviction.
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Adrienne.....I was abused for 14 years. It started before marriage and lasted through 3 children. I had no support to get out but I found a way. Stay strong in your beliefs and know that there is always....ALWAYS a choice to walk away. NO matter what the reason, abusers CHOOSE to abuse.
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Adrienne, pleast post to never let your guard down. NEVER. Even after you've remarried, moved, divorce finalized, and all. Mine came back and now my husband and I have protective orders against my ex and because of the system we are all still being forced into a life of domestic violence. so never have children with them. it won't ever make it better. and run as fast as you can. and tell everyone all the time. take lots of pictures and bury your journal in the backyard if you have to. I too fell for the charmer after spending a life becoming strong enough to never wear those shoes. Stay strong. Say lots of prayers. and tell everyone around to pray for you. You'll need it. good luck adrienne. keep us posted. thanks for your story.
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You were very fortunate to have escaped with your life. Unfortunatly, that was not the case for Monica Paul who was shot and killed in front of her children by their father. We the family of Ms. Paul are trying to changes the laws that not only failed her but, continue to fail women and children. Please visit our site and see our cause.
www.monicapaul.org
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