Love According to Domestic Violence
Love According to Domestic Violence
There are seven kinds of love according to theology. These range from philadelphia to agape, with eros in the middle, of which philadelphia denotes brotherly love; agape the selfless love that expects nothing in return; and of course, eros which is of the body. For a relationship to succeed and flourish there has to be the agape mode of love on both sides. Often it is one-sided and the one at the receiving end laps it all up as some medieval god lapping up the blood offering.
Too often, women believe erroneously that they are really in a loving relationship when they fall in love. Let us examine this statement further. When a woman falls in love, she simply assumes her partner has too.
Frequently, there is a huge disparity in their thinking which is revealed later--too much later. It is like a couple watching the sunset and exclaiming, "It's awesome." He might have meant the sea, and she might have meant the clouds. They go on to make plans based on what they believe is a strong foundation where both enjoy the same things, when they actually meant totally different things.
Eventually it turns out he wanted someone who loved the ocean, and she detests it. He thinks fluffy clouds are silly. Assuming the other thinks like you and has the same desires and needs as you is a big mistake. The gulf that reveals itself later on is too wide to be bridged, and it might lead to frustrations and bitterness. This may, in turn, culminate in violent expressions of physical domestic abuse.
Frequently, there is a huge disparity in their thinking which is revealed later--too much later. It is like a couple watching the sunset and exclaiming, "It's awesome." He might have meant the sea, and she might have meant the clouds. They go on to make plans based on what they believe is a strong foundation where both enjoy the same things, when they actually meant totally different things.
Eventually it turns out he wanted someone who loved the ocean, and she detests it. He thinks fluffy clouds are silly. Assuming the other thinks like you and has the same desires and needs as you is a big mistake. The gulf that reveals itself later on is too wide to be bridged, and it might lead to frustrations and bitterness. This may, in turn, culminate in violent expressions of physical domestic abuse.
Another misconception regarding love is that it hurts to be in love. Some women actually believe that a sorrowful heart is inevitable if you are in love. You love someone so much, even their little acts of callousness hurts you.
Here is your wake up call and very obvious sign most dismiss for many reasons (fear, insecurity, rejection, etc). If your partner did share the same degree of love, he would check his callousness at the door forever and not hurt you.
If you are crying most of the time, you are not (I repeat, NOT) in a love relationship; and many people who know you will tell you that you are just a glutton for punishment. In such a scenario, this verbal abuse is emotional domestic violence, which takes a serious toll on your health. (Trust me, I know.)
Here is your wake up call and very obvious sign most dismiss for many reasons (fear, insecurity, rejection, etc). If your partner did share the same degree of love, he would check his callousness at the door forever and not hurt you.
If you are crying most of the time, you are not (I repeat, NOT) in a love relationship; and many people who know you will tell you that you are just a glutton for punishment. In such a scenario, this verbal abuse is emotional domestic violence, which takes a serious toll on your health. (Trust me, I know.)
It might seem incredible but it is true that at least some women believe that when in love, they must relinquish all rights to a personal life. Find out where this belief comes from, and get rid of it! God put you here to serve Him, not an abusive man who has no morals or ethical beliefs (or he would not do these things to you, period).
These women willingly let go of all they used to be and fashion themselves into what they believe a wife is supposed to be. They actually initiate proceedings by effacing themselves to such a degree that the man believes it is now expected of him to take control over her, the finances, in fact the whole family affairs.
While this might be amicable in the beginning, eventually he loses respect for her and treats her miserably, and may (most likely will) even go out looking to spice things up. So this is another wrong idea about love that leads to emotional domestic abuse.
These women willingly let go of all they used to be and fashion themselves into what they believe a wife is supposed to be. They actually initiate proceedings by effacing themselves to such a degree that the man believes it is now expected of him to take control over her, the finances, in fact the whole family affairs.
While this might be amicable in the beginning, eventually he loses respect for her and treats her miserably, and may (most likely will) even go out looking to spice things up. So this is another wrong idea about love that leads to emotional domestic abuse.
Sometimes you are simply in love with the idea of being in love.
This happens to products of broken homes, who simply can't wait to fall in love, set up home and family, and show 'em how it's done. They have planned everything down to the childrens' names and the pets they're going to have. In this list is also a vision of their dream man with who they will settle down in suburbia.
When a guy who comes even close to their envisioned man comes along, they snap him up without bothering too much about as to why there are so many lines on his forehead or why his jaw always seem clenched. Once again, the stage is set for a domestic violence saga that slowly unfolds as the years go by.
Do you even know what kind of background this man has? Pay for a full police record online. It's less than $100 and might just save your life. Go to ZabaSearch.com and find basic information, then pay for the full background check before proceeding with any real commitment.
This happens to products of broken homes, who simply can't wait to fall in love, set up home and family, and show 'em how it's done. They have planned everything down to the childrens' names and the pets they're going to have. In this list is also a vision of their dream man with who they will settle down in suburbia.
When a guy who comes even close to their envisioned man comes along, they snap him up without bothering too much about as to why there are so many lines on his forehead or why his jaw always seem clenched. Once again, the stage is set for a domestic violence saga that slowly unfolds as the years go by.
Do you even know what kind of background this man has? Pay for a full police record online. It's less than $100 and might just save your life. Go to ZabaSearch.com and find basic information, then pay for the full background check before proceeding with any real commitment.
It is important for women to understand that love is serious business. They have to have the sense to distinguish it from sexual attraction, mere infatuations, sympathy, physical charm, or even a fat wallet with all the trappings that come with it. Having this awareness will save at least some women from walking into death traps with their eyes tight shut.
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